Also, this way, when you’re fresh in her mind, she’ll remember you right away next time your number pops up!She’ll also feel more comfortable about your text interaction with her because you already started texting her when you were with her. (your name).” Not typing her name in the first text can make her think you’ve forgotten it.It’s no secret that women love compliments, but too many compliments, especially thrown out too early on will make her think you’re insincere, desperate, are a low value guy and ultimately just want to get in her knickers. Top Tip: Instead of asking questions, make statements with a photo: “mmmmm, I love cats in bread” 7.30am: “Morning (girl’s name) X” 9.05am: “Just got to the office. Hope my boss didn’t notice lol.” pm: “Lunch break YAY! Think I’m gonna go Pret :)” 6pm: “Finished work, going for a drink with some friends.There’s a common misconception flying around that since women love talking about themselves it’s a good idea to ask them lots of questions. No one wants to be bombarded with questions, especially questions that aren’t fun like “do you always go to that club? Wish you were here :)” 9pm: “I’m back home, did you have a good day? Seriously…if you think giving a girl updates on your day is cool, look at it from her perspective.If you gave her a nickname when you met her then that’s fine, but only use nicknames if it’s already an insider joke between the two of you, otherwise it’ll appear like you’ve totally forgotten her. Some guys will lose their mind staring at their phone waiting for her to reply, and when she does they’ll rush to pick it up and reply with something daft and incoherent.If you want her to think you’re a desperate loser, who has nothing else to do in his day, has no social life and who’s world revolves around her, then go ahead, text her back instantly, every single time. After you read the 21 mistakes I’ll give you the solutions…Since using this rule, I now never get those “first text blues” and you if you stick to this rule you won’t either!
So no meaningless texts like “how are you doing”, “what’s up” and “hi”, which will contribute nothing of value to her image of you. Trying to arrange a date before you’ve made a girl excited to see you again is a fatal mistake countless guys make over and over again.
There’s no excuses for falling into the friend zone and even if you think it’s impossible to answer some of her texts with anything other than a friend to friend response then you’re wrong. You might think the only possible answer you can give is “it’s going great, how’s yours”, but instead, this is the perfect opportunity to tease her: “clearly it’s going much better than yours! This way, she’ll probably reply by saying, “nah, mine’s way, way better than yours” and from there you can move into a much more playful frame. Don’t try too hard to act aloof and indifferent all the time.
Sure, it’s cool to be cool, but if you’re too cool, you’ll cool her off. If you don’t show any emotions she’ll think you’re not interested in her. If you got a text from someone you don’t know very well asking why you chose to become a lawyer, would you really be motivated to text them back?
It will remove her anxiety about texting you the next day and means you can start comfort building a lot easier. Also using words like “beautiful”, “gorgeous”, etc.
You may think you’re complimenting her but she’ll just think you call all girls “beautiful” or “gorgeous”.